I have seen you voice a similar position to this, on the forums and I would agree. The devs will hopefully allow for private servers to adjust factors as TK thresholds and much more. Until then, enjoy the "stock" game settings! ~
That sounds like maybe the issue is the suppression mechanics rather than the kick mechanics? I am pretty sure that in an actual bayonet charge, things got a little fucky. So I'm okay with it being a cluster fuck and really dangerous. In this game, you die a lot. At Sharpsburg, 23,000 men died, were wounded, or went missing over the course of the single-day battle. I think that is an important reality to portray in the game.